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What is spam?


'Spam' is the sending of unsolicited email to recipients who are not known by or have no connection to the sender, usually with the purpose of selling them something or involving them in a process which will lead to the sender making money as a result. This is defined in the context of those individuals who send large numbers of identical emails to a database of recipients.

For the recipient spam email is a problem for several reasons. Firstly large numbers of spam emails can choke up a mailbox rendering it unusable. Secondly, spam emails are not always recognisable from their subject line so time is wasted opening the email to read it (this effect is cumulative). Thirdly the existence of genuine emails may be masked by the spam effect. Fourthly the techniques which spammers typically employ are insulting, irritating and misleading. Fifthly, the managers of legitimate opt-in email lists and mailing lists may be falsely accused of spam because of the climate of mistrust and irritation created by the spammers. The wonder is that spammers imagine they will persuade you to act favorably towards them when you receive their spam!

What is NOT spam?

People who contact an individual recipient with a specific purpose relevant to that recipient's business or other interests is not sending spam.  For example, a request for a link is not spam. Nor is the one-off sending of information which the sender genuinely believes will be of use to the recipient.  Nor is the requesting of such information. Nor is the sending of an introductory email with the purpose of making a contact for legitimate purposes. It all comes down to decent everyday etiquette (netiquette). The spammer is the equivalent of somebody you don't know who keeps badgering you in the street until in the end you have to call a cop.  But, somebody who asks directions in the street is not like a spammer.  Nor is somebody who saw your ad and wants more info, or somebody who sends you specific-to-you information which they genuinely feel will help you.

  Also, if you have signed up to a mailing list or opt-in email list, then you are not being spammed when emailed as a result. The danger is that people may forget which lists they have signed up to and mistakenly believe that they are getting spam when they receive emails through this process. We know of one unfortunate mailing list manager whose legitimate activities were shut down by his ISP when a forgetful mailing list member shouted spam! This is not the fault of the mailing list member who mistakenly complained, but of the spammers. Spam creates an atmosphere of irritation at the arrival of unexpected emails. It is this mistrustful atmosphere which damages email communication in the wider sense.

Spammers' techniques

Ever received an email with a subject line which said something like "Here's that information I promised you" or "Sorry I forgot to send this before".  The pretence that you have already been in contact with the spammer (so making further contact not categorizable as spam) is a typical spammer's technique.  The problem with this technique (besides its obvious attempt to dupe) is that you may also receive genuine emails from people who actually have contacted you before in legitimate circumstances but whose message you now disregard because they have inadvertently written something that looks like spam. Spam is a spanner in the communication works.

In an effort to be clear that they are not sending out spam, mailing list managers will include a message at the heading of emails sent to their list which gives instructions on how to be removed from the list -- usually these instructions are placed at the foot of the message so as not to clutter the top. Spammers are now adopting this technique to give their spam an air of authenticity. If you look for the 'unremove' instructions at the foot of the message though, they will not be there, or if they are, they will probably not work.

Our policy

Our policy is not to tolerate spamming in any form. We do not use spamming when advertising our dating services nor will we condone spamming being used by anyone associated with us. It's as simple as that.

Spamming is dishonest and a waste of everybody's time (including that of the spammer). Don't be a pain in the neck. Don't spam.

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